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Here we pose the question:  What is "supportive" and what is not, when it comes to body image?  When another person says something to you about your weight or your eating or your health, (directly or indirectly) how to you feel about it?  

Examples of common comments for you to think about (but in answering, think about your own experience):

You look great, you've lost weight!
My thighs are sooo huge! You are so skinny!
Do you really think you should be eating that?
Those pants makes you look thinner.
I'm only concerned about your health.
I'm so fat! I am so disgusting.
Hey, baby, lookin' hot today!
You really need to watch it, you're getting too [thin/chunky/fat/etc.]
You are so good, you eat perfectly and always exercise!
I admire your self-discipline.
I'm just worried about you.
You ran that whole way, I am so proud of you!
Great tits!
You're so thin, I'm so jealous, how do you do it?
How can you eat so much?
Oh my God, can you believe how she has let herself go?

Let's start with your pet peeves:
What feels unsupportive?


What feels supportive (or, what would feel 
supportive if someone could do/say it?)


Is what you find supportive or unsupportive 
related to what you are trying to accomplish? 


Any other thoughts?

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